The intimacy of the soul

2013-07-17 02.47.54“The world of the soul is secret. The secret and the sacred are sisters. When the secret is not respected, the sacred vanishes. Consequently, reflection should not shine too severe or aggressive a light in on the world of the soul.”

John O’Donohue

Spiritual constellations take place in deep respect for the soul. In tune with the greater force at work, the facilitator takes the lowest position in the family system of the client. There rarely is permission to make representatives talk during a constellation, as Brigitte Champetier advises3. Interpretation of a constellation is kept to a minimum, and if possible, avoided, for any interpretation that we may produce will always be too small for what is manifested, and a hindrance to the healing movement and the continuation of its path in our souls well after the constellation is over.

“The master keeps her mind
always in unity with the Tao;
this is what makes her shine.

The Tao cannot be grasped.
How can then her mind be one with it?
Because she does not grab onto any idea.

The Tao is dark and unfathomable.
How can it make her shine then?
Because she allows it”

Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching

The constellation is not meant to be understood. What we need to know, is revealed to us, and most is often kept from us. She who knows too much, is inclined to judge, and she who judges, does not love. Constellations work best in our souls when they are forgotten.

Hellinger warns about the harmful effects, after the constellation work, of asking and proving someone about his constellation, and what happened in his family system, about how he feels or what he will do next, and states that this curiosity is a grave intrusion, like “poking at the soul”. Brigitte Champetier further calls for maximum respect when talking about someone or a constellation, since words channel energy and strengthen or weaken the person spoken about.